“It’s not my fault.” We rarely hear adults say those exact words. Most people know better by the time they reach their twenties. Does it mean people take responsibility for their actions? In our business, we see and hear excuses every day.

A good friend once told me, “There are three sides to every story: your side, my side, and the truth.”

Here’s what we think when we hear the following:

“I didn’t stay anywhere very long because the bosses at my past three jobs were all jerks.” If the common denominator is you, are you being difficult to work with?

“They never told me what to do and then said I wasn’t doing my job.” Were you persistent in asking for assistance – in a nice manner? Did you try to figure it out on your own?

“I never received any feedback.” Did you ask?

A man recently told us he hadn’t worked for months because they always chose other applicants. That seems reasonable until we learned where he was applying. We knew those employers and they hired almost anyone at that time. His negative attitude was so palpable that even a desperate employer said no.

While everything is not your fault, you do play a part in every interaction. Take responsibility for your contributions and all aspects of your life can be positively impacted!